went for an unscheduled appt. for my mom yesterday - she was complaining about a tickle in her throat and her ears were hurting - we thought it may be a cold/ear infection.

turns out another tumour has developed in the exact same spot.

things do not look as promising this time around - chemo/radiation is undoable due to the maximum doses she rec'd the first time around.

only option is surgery....or let her pass away in due course.

she's more devasted this time than the first time she found out she had cancer.

i'm so confused.....what do i tell her?

 

The in thing won't quit..

What are the dr's saying the can expect from the surgery? In my mind, get that shit out me, cut rip it, I don't care. Would there be a chance of complications?

I have no idea what you could say to her.. when my mom had serious health issues, it looked like she might not see my sister get married, let alone see her grand child, and a chance to see her second.

I always tell my mom how happy I am that she is/was able to witness these things, and in her mind, that was all she could have ever hoped for. Its little solace to us, but she feels happy.

So that being said, whether your mom is sick or not, spend time doing things that she will enjoy, playing with the kids, little things that will remind her what a great loving family she has.

Man, I just don't know.. you need anything, just call me.

 

omg ! i'm shocked and disheartened reading this !

yet another example of how relentless cancer can be.. :-(

I can't imagine how you must feel..

call me if you need anything..

my thoughts and prayers are with yours..

simon

 

Nimesh... sorry to hear of this news... we're here for you if you need anything!!

 

Nimesh, sorry to hear the news. I have no idea what you can tell her, but I do know what you need to show her. You need to show here your strength and your positive point of view and your determination that this is just one more challenge, and as a family you will get through it together.

Go for the surgery; keep up a positive point of view in front of her even if you don't feel it inside. All the modern technology today still falls short when it comes to the individual human spirit. The mind is more powerful than people have the courage to accept, her frame of reference needs to be of a fighter, one who is determined to kick this shit out of her life. Keep her spirits up buddy, be strong, visualize in your mind winning. Believe me, she will see this and it can become her point of view.

Your family is back in my daily prayers!

 

Ugh..horrible, I know nothing any of us can say can make this better.

If it was my choice, I'd go ahead with the surgery, especially given the alternative is a long drawn out process with a really negative outcome.

Even if the chance was 10% at getting it with surgery I know I'd make the choice to risk the 90.

You know if you need anything just call.

 

sorry to hear Nimesh... let me know if there is anything i can help

 

Nimesh - what brutal news.

Nothing you can really say besides the truth. Maybe this second time around you've caught it earlier in the process and thus surgery may not be as big a deal as it would have been the first time, I donno.

Prayers with you and yours.

Let me know if you need anything.

 

best wishes

 

My $0.02 from a totally new person on the scene...
Just support her in whatever decision she makes. Let her know you care.
Try to stay strong, although I know how impossible that can be when a loved one is struggling with this awful, awful disease. It seems obvious you have much support around here.
Take care.