valentine

I'm so sorry, MsP. I know you've been very close to both your parents and have been there to help them and take care of them for a long, long time. You and your family will be in my prayers.

dlq04

Neat story. The proper term for your English caps is "flat hats" not golf caps. But go to hell hats is good too!

dlq04

Mine too. She's 88 and essentially a drug adict now living off pain killers like Vicodin. She wants so bad to be normal it's sad but the leukemia won't allow it. Back on topic, I too often think of my dad's early driving lessons when he would continually say to use the throttle like there was a egg under it - meaning to apply speed gently so you are not upsetting the balance of the car.

tomcatt

Deb, I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. I really wish you were able to make it to SF (for a number of reasons...) but you know what's important; take care of your Mom. There have been meets, and there will be more meets, but the time you have remaining with your mom is priceless. Take full advantage of this while you can.

{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}

valentine

Thanks for giving me the proper term, DL. I just always saw those cute little guys playing golf in their plaid pants wearing those little hats, so one day daddy and I went out together and bought ourselves a matching pair. I've been wracking my brain trying to remember why we started with the "go to hell" thing and for the life of me cannot remember (vintage ). I have to say I'm sure we were adorable flitting down the highways and byways in our little hats with the top down in that cute little midget.

MsPerky

Thanks...I didn't mean to hijack this thread. Both my parents have been great role models in different ways. I'm trying to think of specific things they said, but mostly they have lived by example. With Mother's Day on Sun and my mother's 84th birthday coming up next Thurs, it's a very poignant time.

Lainey

^
Not to worry about hijacking, Deb. I like the way we feel comfortable talking about just about everything here, and I think the support we get from each other as we deal with life's difficulties means a lot. It's kind of what Vintage is about. The wandering of threads is a good thing, in my opinion.

I hope your Mom improves soon.

ralper

Deb,

For what its worth, I didn't call my father the night before he died. It was the only night I missed that week, but I haven't been able to forget it since.

Some things are more important than others. Make your decision wisely.
We are all with you.

Rob

PokS2k

Rob,

You will never stop missing him. My dad died 30 years ago and I still miss him alot. We were not close and I think that makes it even harder for me. I still find myself sitting and for no apparent reason I start thinking about him and I become very sad and sometimes am overwhelmed with emotions. I don't know why but after all of these years it continues.

I was closer to my mom (she raised me) who died 10 years ago and I visit the cemetary. While I miss her too, I don't experience the same thing as I do with my dad. I'll have moments of reflection but not the same as for my dad. Maybe it is because I go to the cemetary for her (my dad is a couple of hours away).