Passing
08-27-2024, 05:36 PM
#31
It's been five years today since my younger sister died at age 62. Rick and I were with her when she passed and I can still see that day in the hospital so vividly in my mind. Of the loses I have experienced, losing her was the most difficult. I still have a 
and feel so badly for her sons who lost their mom too soon and for her grandchildren who didn't get to know her as they were so little when she passed. She would have been a wonderful grandmother.
Every loss is different. The loss of Rick's Dad was harder in some ways than the loss of my own Dad. My Dad had been ill for some time while his Dad died suddenly.
and feel so badly for her sons who lost their mom too soon and for her grandchildren who didn't get to know her as they were so little when she passed. She would have been a wonderful grandmother. Every loss is different. The loss of Rick's Dad was harder in some ways than the loss of my own Dad. My Dad had been ill for some time while his Dad died suddenly.
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08-27-2024, 10:04 PM
#32
Not everyone (myself included) can say that all our emotional needs were met by our home environment. I still grieve for my pets who were nonjudgmental and asked nothing of me but kindness. It is not weird to grieve for our beloved pets as they replaced some of the family members in my life who were not as loving and kind. You have no idea how much they meant to me and years later I grieve their passing.
I think when it comes to the death of parents, we may be more likely to build up an emotional wall to block out the pain.
I think we just let our grief happen with pets.
Another element to dealing with a parent's passing is the condition of the parent.
I know when my mom passed she had been physically declining for a very long time.
So although still mentally acute, she was unhappy and mentally tired. She was existing but not really living.
Patty if I recall your Dad had Alzheimer's. Death, then, is simply the final page of the long goodbye.
The grieving has been stretched out over a long time and death is simply relief.
I think we just let our grief happen with pets.
Another element to dealing with a parent's passing is the condition of the parent.
I know when my mom passed she had been physically declining for a very long time.
So although still mentally acute, she was unhappy and mentally tired. She was existing but not really living.
Patty if I recall your Dad had Alzheimer's. Death, then, is simply the final page of the long goodbye.
The grieving has been stretched out over a long time and death is simply relief.
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valentine (08-28-2024)
08-28-2024, 04:14 AM
#33
The loss of my sister was much harder for me than the loss of my parents and I still grieve for her years later. My dad had been ill for many years before he died and I grieved his loss but was able to appreciate that his suffering was over. My mother died rather suddenly and it took a good while before I could even think of her without breaking down. Through all of this, my dogs were a comfort to me and I grieved their passing with tremendous difficulty. Like Patty, my dogs were like children to me and loved me no matter what. I read a little piece once that said you should find a companion who loves you like your dogs do. I agree.
08-28-2024, 06:14 AM
#34
I was just driving through a parking lot today and my wife mentioned that she fixed a picture that we had of my sister. In the picture she was hugging my son at his communion celebration, it has been one of our favourite pictures and the frame needed repair. My eyes teared up just talking about the picture today, it hits me like a ton of bricks some days and it comes out of no where unexpectedly.
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valentine (08-29-2024)
08-28-2024, 12:52 PM
#35
Via Facebook, I just learned of the passing of my cousin's spouse who took his own life on Monday afternoon.
Apparently there were no red flags or down and out moments.
3 days ago my cousin made a post about planning to go back to Disney and there was a goofy pic with both of them clowning around with big smiles.
Apparently there were no red flags or down and out moments.
3 days ago my cousin made a post about planning to go back to Disney and there was a goofy pic with both of them clowning around with big smiles.
08-28-2024, 01:12 PM
#36
So sad, Jerry.
08-28-2024, 02:59 PM
#37
R.I.P
08-28-2024, 03:30 PM
#38
That is too bad Jerry. May he rest in peace.
I have found that depression can hide in plain sight and can raise its ugly head at any time.
I have found that depression can hide in plain sight and can raise its ugly head at any time.
08-30-2024, 08:24 AM
#39
08-30-2024, 12:52 PM
#40
True depression in the clinical sense is scary.
A few months after my dad died I was visiting at my uncles, i.e. his oldest brother.
After I left, he put his hunting rifle in his mouth and squeezed the trigger.
Fortunately the angle was canted to the side and the bullet exited above his left ear. He lost an eye but survived.
He had been describing a cart he wanted to build and I had asked challenging questions about it.
I've lived with the nagging question, of did I provoke him somehow ever since.
A few months after my dad died I was visiting at my uncles, i.e. his oldest brother.
After I left, he put his hunting rifle in his mouth and squeezed the trigger.
Fortunately the angle was canted to the side and the bullet exited above his left ear. He lost an eye but survived.
He had been describing a cart he wanted to build and I had asked challenging questions about it.
I've lived with the nagging question, of did I provoke him somehow ever since.