Saw this the other day, Jamie, but didn't have a chance to post. Sorry to hear this. Hang in there, man.

Mark

 

Just hang in there. Things will get better if you give it the time.

 

That's a long time. Got'a be tough to take. Never experienced it; hope I never have too. But, having said that, ...... it is so common these days its become the norm. We can only hope that when you look back on this, some day you will say That Was A Good Thing. Best wishes on a new future.

 

As an attorney - and not really knowing the procedures in Ohio - my advice is to start shopping around for a competent divorce mediator. Someone with the proper training and mediation experience. My wife was an attorney mediator and did maybe a thousand divorces soup to nuts and I still can't go to the grocery store without people interrupting me at the beer cooler to thank me for the job she did.

Whatever you do, you don't want to get into a contested battle where you have two attorneys who are running the clock writing nonsense letters and fighting over an extra $5 in alimony payments. What you want is some control over the process so that in the end you can walk away, perhaps unhappy, but not feeling screwed.

 

I've been with my wife for 20 years, it takes a lot of work to keep things on an even plane. Divorce has become a very common thing these days, there seems to be too much temptation out there for people. Always love yourself first, then love others who want to reciprocate second. Look to the future and turn the negative into a positive.

 

Sorry to hear that Jamie, Tullie and I will be praying for you both. Hope to see you again at RTD in April.

 

Can you give us an update on how you are doing?

 

Yes, I hope he is okay. There is no greater feeling than the loneliness, after your life's best friend leaves you.

 

i have been down that path myself, married 30 years, about 25 really good of the total. 6 years out from the divorce and life has been good for a while. This is what i can offer in terms of the next one: We are in a relationship to get what we need, are you getting what you need? There are many soul mates, but few lifetime companions, choose wisely ...experience helps. dating can be awkward yet it's allot life high school now, except nobody gets pregnant...not easy my friend.

 

Ppl say it takes 1/2 of the length of any relationship to recover from some break-ups. Esp ones that involve abandonment. Geez... that would be 12 years, for a 25 year marriage. I guess some break-ups never get to 90% or better resolution, for one or both parties.