No, I didn't see this completely coming. I knew she had been unhappy with herself for awhile. I find it ironic that things started to go south after I bought the S2000. She did the research and approved of the purchase. She did say that when I rolled the MY 05 Berlina, her first thought was not "Am I OK", but "Damn, he totaled the car".

Well, I hope to find someone who enjoys an open cockpit, as I do.

Heart is still breaking. Thanks for letting me vent.

 

Ouch. That sucks. But it's good you can talk about it. You seem to be processing it appropriately.

Some entirely unsolicited advice... Focus on terminating the marriage and be sure to protect yourself during the process. Yes, you want to get it over with, but don't short change yourself for the sake of expediency. Now is not the time to focus on the search for the next +1. That can result in you being very distracted and making all sorts of quick decisions in the interest of moving on with your life.

 

I'm very sorry to hear this. Coming from the other side, I was the one who left my spouse after 24 years. It became an unhealthy relationship from my perspective. We did not have children, which did simplify things somewhat. I do agree on taking things slowly as far as another serious +1. Men do not do as well alone as women do, so it's tempting to rush right in to another relationship. Try not to. I wish you well.

 

Very good advice Bill. Sorry to hear, hope you get through it ok.

 

certainly sorry to hear you news Joe, I wouldn't know where to start.
I have no deep words of wisdom save perhaps one about dealing with grief.
Several years ago, one of my son's friend's mother died unexpectedly.
The sister was about the same age I was when my father died.
I simply told her, life will get better again. It won't be tomorrow and it probably won't be next week.
It will take a while but eventually life will get better again.
Think back on all of the positive memories and it will get you through to the better times.
Until then simply put one foot in front of the other and carry on.

 

Sorry to hear this bad news. Try to surround yourself with a few good friends. Think it is important to get all those pent-up feelings out of your system.

Hang in there!

 

How long were you married?

Divorces suck. I was about 17 when my parents divorced and then got to experience it first hand after 23 years of marriage. It's been eight years since my divorce was final. I hope you and your wife can talk and have some understanding of what happened. I think about it far more often than I want to but my ex won't talk to me. On the other hand, he constantly put me down and treated my like I didn't matter at all. I'm just happy I don't have to live with his negativity and his hateful personality anymore.

 

Sad,but,there is always two sides to a medal...

 

This happened 4 year's ago as well, lost two stone in 3 months .
Let's just say the new girlfriend is 9 years younger wakeboard /kitesurf together.
From hating the boosted s she's starting to come around.
This will be the start of the rest of your life mate .

 

15 years together. We were in year 13 of our marriage.