Valentines Day is in 5 days, so I'll use that as an excuse for my thread.

Like the Topic Title says, What are your views or opinions, or feelings, etc. on being in love with someone vs. just loving someone?

This is a personal issue and what one person feels will not be right for everyone else. It's totally personal. I'm curious how people feel about this. I've heard it both ways.

If you are in love with a person, does that fade away for you, to become love later, but not the in love anymore? Or maybe you are still in love? Or for you, is there no difference? Or maybe, you start out by loving someone, and later find that it's become that now you are in love with that same someone?

Or maybe you've always wanted to be in love but "settled" for love?

For you, is being in love with a person, the same thing as loving that person?

 

I'm expecting Valentine to post up on this one.

 

I suppose one could be in love with a sport or hobby

 

A person could be in love with another person and truly love that person. Being in love, in my opinion, is true love.

 

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I think I know what you are getting at here. Loving someone doesn't mean you are in love with that person. You can love many things about a person without the strong emotional (and physical) attachment that goes with being in love with him/her. Like a friend, for example, or family. Or former sweethearts/spouses. I have affection for my ex, and love some things about him, but I'm not (and not sure I ever was) in love with him. Of course, I have the benefit of hindsight. At the time you think you are falling in love, it could just be lust. It might take awhile to see if it is really true love.

 

Love is a mixture of many emotions. You can love many people in your life but the love you are questioning is a growing love. A man and a woman that grows in love will have a more fruitful relationship than those who just love for a specific reason.

For one to explain love or entirely know love is impossible because growing love is infinite.

 

Being in love with someone to me, is the what happens when you first meet and the feelings are overwhelming, then as time goes on a deeper love develops and you become comfortable with the person and go through the daily ups and downs sharing your life with that person, leaning on each other to get through tribulations in life, and you accept that person for who they are including all their faults, you rely on that person to be there, you know they will be home when you get home, you know they will be there in the morning when you wake up, it is companionship, and there is so much more too much too list. To me that is the unconditional love everyone wants.

Some people need to have the overwhelming feeling to believe they really are in love. What feels like love is really an illusion of castles in the sky, when reality hits they realise they dont accept the person including their faults and they have made a huge mess of their life and most likely someone else's but it is too late to turn back.

The overwhelming feeling is endorphines and it is like a drug. This is why marriages break up.

The above stated is my opinion, as you all know my husband walked out on me February 1st. I believe he left me for the overwhelming feelings of love and dosent know what real love is.

 

I love my parents, but I could only be in love with a girlfriend/wife.

That's the way I see it.

 

Sorry to hear the news! I wish you the best, and having gone through many things in my life I'm convinced there is great truth to the saying 'everything works out for the best'.