Update: My ME sis is coming for a visit. She is going to look around the apartment while she is there and see how it goes. She has the ability to dance around an issue better than I can, and Mom seems to like to dance rather than hearing things directly. My sister did tell me on the last phone conversation she had with my Mom, Mom was talking about the cleaning lady option. Maybe we're making some progress.

 

Lainey...possibly your local Office for the Aging can be of help. We contacted them for my MIL who has a hard time getting around and they set up a schedule where an aid comes in twice per week to help with cleaning, bathing etc.
Levi

 

Levi, my mother is still fortunate in that she can still get around fairly well. She is by no means housebound but is having some issues. The Council on Aging in our area is a great organization to deal with, however at this time, my Mother would not qualify for help, though they may have some recommendations for reputable housekeeping services.

Thanks for posting. Hope you are enjoying retirement.

 

The more people can do for themselves the better, it gives them a purpose.
Retirement is all it's cracked up to be, although I do miss seeing most of the people I worked with.
Levi

 

You could always meet former co workers for lunch or dinner. It's what my sister who retired last year does.

Glad you are enjoying retirement.

 

with Lainey. There are about 12 of my fellow retirees who meet once a month for lunch, and we enjoy catching up on what's going on with our lives. In addition, I still go to lunch and/or talk/e-mail about once a week with some of my friends who are still working where I did, which normally results in getting lots of juicy ! We even have an "alumni" association on Linkedin which has members from my location, as well as corporate and other locations. It's really nice to reminisce with these folks and see what they are doing now. (Our company was more like an extended family, since we all spent so much time together, sharing the tough times as well as the good ones.)

I also have been consulting a bit lately, so I am getting a pulse on the current business as well.

 

My ME sister came for a visit. She didn't spend much time in Mom's apartment as originally planned, but was able to point out a thing or two to Mom that needed cleaning. Bottom line, Mom needs new glasses for sure!

My sister said the apartment wasn't that bad, however I think she forgot to take into account that we (local sisters) have gone in there twice in the last several months for a not very much fun scrubbing party.

She broached the cleaning lady idea with Mom again and Mom isn't ready............yet.

I quit. I'm not going to hound Mom about this. She'll come around when she's ready. She's no where near being featured on "Hoarders". I'm for now.

To be cont...............

 

are you sure it glasses Lainey?

Pride is a vicious trait. She may be able to see it but really can't physically cope with the cleaning but her generation didn't ask for help.
She may just be caught in the crux between inability and yet be unwilling to give up on her self reliance.

 

I do believe that is part of the issue.

I don't see any real lack of independence in admitting you need a cleaning lady. Heck, someone can send me one, I won't complain. Now, if we get to the point where she no longer drives, I can understand how that will take away much of her independence and be hard to accept. Having been driven around after two shoulder surgeries, I can personally say not being able to drive totally sux!

 

Good news for my mom. Her power was restored last night, just in time for her to go home from the hospital today. A miracle. She was not looking forward to having to stay with us - she likes the comfort/routine of her home and also doesn't want to burden us. Happy day!