Attitude and changes
#21
I too understand that sometimes family and "friends" turn out to be a lot less than you expect. I've been through it with my brother and with my in-laws and even some "friends".
My advise is illegitimi non carborundum
My advise is illegitimi non carborundum
It may sound cynical to some, but it works for me.
Lower your expectations and you won't be disappointed.
Another one: Less use of the word "should" in your vocabulary, may lead to less disappointments. People don't always (or in some cases often) do what we think they should.
#22
I've employed a scorched-earth policy when dealing with rather nasty family members. I instructed my half-sister to shove a dead porcupine up her arse and go die in a fire. She took the hint and I've heard nary a screech out of the spineless harpy since. However, you may want to adopt a more tactful approach in dealing with less than pleasant relatives.
#23
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Living with pain, even low level pain, can cause changes in mental areas and personality. Maybe that is part of the cause of symptoms you express. A 38 year friend of mine has been in chronic pain for a long time and now has really affected him to the point he has moved away from his wife of 30 years and accuses her of infidelity etc etc and I know it is all in his head.
I have also watched my Mother's personality change as she aged. I believe and have read that aging changes the brain as well. How many times have you heard elderly folks make comments that should embarrass themselves, and it comes right out of their mouths with no filtering whatsoever. My sweet Mother has made racial cracks to black people she knew that made everyone else want to crawl under the table.
(don't take this personally Val, I'm commenting in generalities).
I have also watched my Mother's personality change as she aged. I believe and have read that aging changes the brain as well. How many times have you heard elderly folks make comments that should embarrass themselves, and it comes right out of their mouths with no filtering whatsoever. My sweet Mother has made racial cracks to black people she knew that made everyone else want to crawl under the table.
(don't take this personally Val, I'm commenting in generalities).
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OMG this nearly caused a moment
#26
Morris, I think you've made a good point. Pain certainly can be a factor in personality changes. I saw it in my Dad when he was ill.
I know when I dealt with the shoulder issues I functioned, and got through each day, but I KNOW I was less than pleasant, I KNOW I wasn't the most fun person to be with and I'm sure I had a short string on many of those days. Sometimes I'd just go to bed and Chronic pain/illness does do a number on folks. When I finally started to feel like me again, it was an amazing feeling. I don't know how anyone deals with daily pain for years and years, I got off easy compared to so many.
Oh, and you are so right about the lack of filter in the older population. My Mom has come out with a few comments of late that made me
I know when I dealt with the shoulder issues I functioned, and got through each day, but I KNOW I was less than pleasant, I KNOW I wasn't the most fun person to be with and I'm sure I had a short string on many of those days. Sometimes I'd just go to bed and Chronic pain/illness does do a number on folks. When I finally started to feel like me again, it was an amazing feeling. I don't know how anyone deals with daily pain for years and years, I got off easy compared to so many.
Oh, and you are so right about the lack of filter in the older population. My Mom has come out with a few comments of late that made me
#27
Val, I agree 100%. especially about speaking up rather than tolerating shoddy products or service in todays world. These all certainly seem to be vintage related. Several years ago I attended a seminar by the late Earl Nightingale and have taken something he said that day to heart and recall it every time I experience one of these events. He said:" To stand by idly and do or say nothing or fail to notify the proper authority is to Sanction incompetence" Perhaps we all on a global level have been doing just that for far too long.
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Val, it was a virtual one, but we all did this for you!