Kyras

Thank you Tom. I got it, and replied.

Chazmo

Sorry about the news, Patty!

Kyras

Thanks Chaz. It does suck but it's part of his life, and therefore mine. We all have to go some how.

Chazmo

Yup. Feel for ya', Patty. There are no easy answers for this situation. Hang in there, and try to convince your dad to do the things he needs to do to make things best for you.

Vent (here) when you need to.

bluerooster

So sorry to hear this, Patty

valentine

Sorry Patty -- I wish you and your family well.

rjosey8385

Really sorry about your situation - it takes an emotional and physical toll. My grandfather had to go to a home (grandmother couldn't stand him any more), which is where he died 2 years ago. We have a friend who put his dad into an Alzheimer home about 2 years ago, too, and everyone is much happier now. He wasn't happy at all with the idea of going into one, but did actually find "love" and a companion (only for 6 months before she passed away). The funny thing was the uproar at the Alzheimer home when they found them in bed together at the beginning of the relationship - both families were called and the nursing home was quite upset (probably from a liability standpoint). Both families were quite okay with it and the 2 of them were very happy for a short time (nope, no shotgun weddings here!). He's adjusted to his life there and they keep him active and occupied and his son doesn't shoulder nearly the burden as when dad was living with them. The main thing is that his dad had already given up his home to move in with his children - yours may be a more difficult situation if your dad is still living in his own home.

Best wishes to you. We'll be here when you need us!

MsPerky

^ I think that's a great story about your friend's dad... When I put Auntie into the assisted-living place, she basically hated me for about six months. She thought she could change her mind and go back to NC if she wanted. But after that, things got better, and she's been relatively content there since. The decisions related to our elderly loved ones are very hard to make - but almost always the right ones in the end.

tomcatt

Sorry to hear about your Dad, Patty.

Grannyrod

You have my sympathy and support, having lived through an aunt and a mother with this dreaded disease. Only now are they trying to get help for the caregivers after realizing what a toll it takes. However, sounds like you've got a bit of time before it comes to moving him so keep the "dreads" at bay until that time comes. You never know how these things will turn out or who might come through unexpectedly. Like quite a few of your S2K family members said, we're here if you need us. Hang tough!