S2kTurbo83

I have an ap1 motor fully built for turbo. Now the car won't start with the stock ecu,however starts with the AEM ecu.and the ecu isn't fried.

Second one the starter keeps breaking, I'm not sure why is it the flywheel or something? The top of the starter where its like a cone broke off twice. Also if it hasn't broken off yet it gets stuck to the flywheel which your unable to turn the pully crank by hand.

Third problem is that I'm not getting any vtec what's so ever and don't know why.

I know like wtf and dude yr cars f'd up lol. Thanks!