Casual sex
11-20-2003, 06:55 PM
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Im with Pierceman. Any sex is good sex! 
No, but reall folks, as long as both parties are on the same page then its okay. Yes it does work, as long as you are both on the same page.
No, but reall folks, as long as both parties are on the same page then its okay. Yes it does work, as long as you are both on the same page.
11-20-2003, 07:17 PM
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Bass,
I think the answer from my perspective is...it depends. I question the "morally wrong" stance, as it seems rather arbitrary that consensual act between two (or more?) people for the benefit of all and the detriment of none (at least in theory) can be considered wrong.
That said, it sounds to me like you are speaking of consensual sex with a third party other than someone you love. If that's the case, then I think it would potentially be wrong seeing as you would be betraying someone you love (unless they also consent).
Seems more complex than just a simple question...
I think the answer from my perspective is...it depends. I question the "morally wrong" stance, as it seems rather arbitrary that consensual act between two (or more?) people for the benefit of all and the detriment of none (at least in theory) can be considered wrong.
That said, it sounds to me like you are speaking of consensual sex with a third party other than someone you love. If that's the case, then I think it would potentially be wrong seeing as you would be betraying someone you love (unless they also consent).
Seems more complex than just a simple question...
11-20-2003, 07:28 PM
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Casual sex is like the "pull out" method of contraception.
You need to know to pull out.
Casual sex: Is it right or wrong? That's not for me to judge.
In my humble opinion, it's a little 'overated'. Sure pure lustful sex is a high (albeit temporary), but there's nothing quite like sex in a relationship, where from the sacrifices of fidelity you get to bask in the ultimate honey of making love.
If you're reading this looking like this>>>, let me break it down for you...
4litre engine, twin-turbos, bucket loads of torque = casual sex, cheap thrills.
2litre engine, 120bhp per litre, 9,000rpm red line = making love, pure passion.
...or nothing.
You need to know to pull out.
Casual sex: Is it right or wrong? That's not for me to judge.
In my humble opinion, it's a little 'overated'. Sure pure lustful sex is a high (albeit temporary), but there's nothing quite like sex in a relationship, where from the sacrifices of fidelity you get to bask in the ultimate honey of making love.
If you're reading this looking like this>>>
, let me break it down for you...4litre engine, twin-turbos, bucket loads of torque = casual sex, cheap thrills.
2litre engine, 120bhp per litre, 9,000rpm red line = making love, pure passion.
...or nothing.
11-20-2003, 08:04 PM
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that from behind using a 
then finish and go to 
But if she starts to
bust out and 
Just don't get sucked in, I've had friends along with myself with women who get attatched and want to get serious. It's a dangerous situation.
11-20-2003, 08:15 PM
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as they say.. no matter how much you think it is casual, part of you is with them. You give yourself to someone else. When it comes time to marry, do you want to find a husband or wife that has been giving herself to everyone?
I am not saying casual sex is good or bad, but you just have to watch out for it...
I am not saying casual sex is good or bad, but you just have to watch out for it...
Good analogy 
11-21-2003, 04:21 AM
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Having come of age in the "Free Sex" era of the late 60's and early 70's I found nothing wrong with it. Some of the women that I knew became "sex buddies." When we were available and wanted to we would have sex, and there was no guilt and no commitment. Of course it did prove interesting once in a while when someone would show up while someone else was with me, but still we knew the rules and all was well.
11-21-2003, 05:05 AM
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From a Christian perspective, casual sex (ie, premarital sex) is wrong. Period. No debate.
As for those that say "If you're both on the same page, it's fine" or "It's not detrimental", that's bull. It's super-rare for two people to ever be on the same page in ANYTHING, much less something like sex. Secondly, I can guarantee it's detrimental in one way or another.
1) You end up falling for the person but they don't fall for you (or vice versa)
2) You get a STD.
3) You start comparing sex and eventually end up being unsatisfied with a much better person (in terms of character and personality) that isn't quite as experienced or whatever.
4) It gets you started on being a player, which is probably one of the worst habits a person can have.
5) Guilt hits later, even though you thought it wouldn't.
6) Pregnancy! (no protection is perfect)
Those are just a few problems I foresee. To each their own, I guess, but I wouldn't advise it.
As for those that say "If you're both on the same page, it's fine" or "It's not detrimental", that's bull. It's super-rare for two people to ever be on the same page in ANYTHING, much less something like sex. Secondly, I can guarantee it's detrimental in one way or another.
1) You end up falling for the person but they don't fall for you (or vice versa)
2) You get a STD.
3) You start comparing sex and eventually end up being unsatisfied with a much better person (in terms of character and personality) that isn't quite as experienced or whatever.
4) It gets you started on being a player, which is probably one of the worst habits a person can have.
5) Guilt hits later, even though you thought it wouldn't.
6) Pregnancy! (no protection is perfect)
Those are just a few problems I foresee. To each their own, I guess, but I wouldn't advise it.
11-21-2003, 05:24 AM
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sylvir2k, great graphic analogy...
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as you accept the risks/pitfalls as JonBoy pointed out...
After a few preganancy or STD scares you may decide to "settle down"
But I say if you both get tested and want to play go for it....
For a more relevant question: are there any hot ladies looking for it??
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as you accept the risks/pitfalls as JonBoy pointed out...
After a few preganancy or STD scares you may decide to "settle down"
But I say if you both get tested and want to play go for it....
For a more relevant question: are there any hot ladies looking for it??