Did you know right then and than? I need to know as i think I met the girl of my dream and
she's a little bit out of my reach. Now, i want to work to get to her as this girl could turn my
life around. I am totally nuts over her.

LIL Raja

 

It was love at first sight! There was electricity in the way we looked at each other. Scared me to death! The last thing I wanted at that time was to make a long term committment. I resisted for a while but soon gave in. That was almost 28 years ago and the 2:30 AM "interludes" are still high voltage!

Take it easy and don't force it. Good luck!

 

I met my wife the day after I split with my last girlfriend (we had been together 18 months). Everyone said I was "on the rebound" and that it wouldn't last. That was 9 years ago. We started talking long term plans within the first 3 or 4 months, and actually moved abroad (from UK to Hong Kong) together after only 8 months of seeing each other.

Somehow, and I don't know how, you just seem to know that this is the right person.

I think one of the signs is when you start thinking long term with them without realising it......

As MyBad said, don't force it.....

And Good luck from me as well

 

oh man, i know about this love at first sight thingy. My favorite gf when we met it was love at first sight. Then recently i met a girl same shit, except i am trying to get the ball rolling and she's being hesitent. Damn, i want her. LOL! I guess only time will tell. it's good to hear the some of you found it at the right time and place and it has lasted considering the divorce rate these days. Good luck!

LIL RAJA

 

Met in grade 8 choir (13 and 14 yrs old). Became fast friends. She had a crush on me. Started dating at 17/18 (she was looking more mature...). Love happened. Married at 22/23. That was 24 years ago. Still my best friend after nearly 33 years.

 

I was living on the beach in Marina del Rey and this lady and her roommate, who had just spent the summer touring Europe together, moved in next door. Mrs. Raptor-to-be and I had common bedroom walls and a common exit from the backs of our bedrooms, so we got to know each other pretty quickly. Her roommate ended up marrying a guy she met in Venice on their trip. A really great guy. he's now a Porsche dealer.

One day we were together at my place and I got a phone call from my dad. My mother had just died a horrible, totally unexpected, and violent death (I'll tell you people about it sometime, maybe). We decided then and there to move in together and got married seven months later. August 19 is our 30th anniversary.

Best of luck, Lil Raja, this sounds like it's getting serious.

 

LR - follow the Tao of Steve:

Be desireless - you get laid by not wanting it
Be heroic - show her what you're excellent at
Be gone - retreat so that she can chase you

 

I basically cornered my husband when he was fresh out of college - he showed up to interview at my company with a dark tan, bleached blonde hair (cute surfer boy), confined in an obviously-new suit. (I thought to myself, "Hmmm, cute! Surfer in a suit!") At the time, I was divorced with a 3-year old ... much more "worldly" than he. He claims I made a number of suggestive remarks during the interview, which I find hard to believe.

We ended up working together for a couple of years, but we both had significant others, so we'd often share our relationship stories. Finally realized we had more in common with each other than with our current partners. Started hanging out more, doing a variety of sports together, and finally got serious. We've been married for almost 8 years, and known each other for almost 12 years. Still best buds.

The one thing that was different with us is that it was a gradual relationship; whereas my others were always based on the instant sparks and chemistry. Those always turned out to be so dramatic, lots of fighting, co-dependent behavior, and other unpleasantness. Ours has grown into a really stable, healthy marriage - still with plenty of sparks!

And yep, I recommend "don't rush it" - you've got plenty of time.

 

Does anyone win at this game?

 

Sounds like you have, John