Need help with Korean girl....
12-23-2005, 11:31 AM
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Originally Posted by sjs2k4o8,Dec 23 2005, 12:24 PM
Talk to her now!!! What do you have to lose? NOT A DANG THING.
but the opposite is also true....what do you have to gain....and the answer is the same....NOT a damn thing.He's lost his chance...you gotta know when not to push a bad situation. The girl is shy and non-confrontational. She's going to avoid him until he goes away right now...and if he does force her to respond she's just going to lash out.
She's told you exactly what she wants and she's clearly thought alot about that. Listen to her and respect her wishes.
The thing is you could have maintained the friendship if you wanted to. It would have taken just 4 words(granted they are some of the hardest words to say). But if after you read her letter you said honestly....'I understand' and 'it's ok' she would be talking right now. It hurts like hell I know..but you have to listen what they say.
12-23-2005, 11:34 AM
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btw, korean fob girls dont believe in friends of opposite sex (unless u two have some kinda history which you dont)
Today's lesson: Dont Date Korean Chicks... They Are Trouble
Today's lesson: Dont Date Korean Chicks... They Are Trouble
12-23-2005, 11:35 AM
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First I would like to say that I hope you feel better soon. Sounds like you are really hurting. It's cliche, but time really will heal this wound.
Second, this may be a major generalization, but women tend to be able to make snap relationship judgements and stick by them much better than men. Once a woman has decided that it's over, it's best to just walk away with your pride and leave the relationship. Men tend to be more shallow and wishy-washy and it doesn't take much (lingerie seduction always works on me) to swing them back into a relationship (assuming they haven't already met someone else, but now I'm going off on a tangent).
Forget about leaving this relationship on "better terms". If you want her to remember you in a positive light, be strong and accept her decision and just walk away. Do things her way, leave her a message to pack your stuff and go and pick it up when she's not around. Put her out of your mind and resume your regular life. If this is your first relationship, it certainly won't be your last. Stay positive, there are lots more women headed your way.
I know, it's easier said than done. But in the long run, this will be best for you. Good luck bro...
Second, this may be a major generalization, but women tend to be able to make snap relationship judgements and stick by them much better than men. Once a woman has decided that it's over, it's best to just walk away with your pride and leave the relationship. Men tend to be more shallow and wishy-washy and it doesn't take much (lingerie seduction always works on me) to swing them back into a relationship (assuming they haven't already met someone else, but now I'm going off on a tangent).
Forget about leaving this relationship on "better terms". If you want her to remember you in a positive light, be strong and accept her decision and just walk away. Do things her way, leave her a message to pack your stuff and go and pick it up when she's not around. Put her out of your mind and resume your regular life. If this is your first relationship, it certainly won't be your last. Stay positive, there are lots more women headed your way.
I know, it's easier said than done. But in the long run, this will be best for you. Good luck bro...
12-23-2005, 11:45 AM
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Originally Posted by 2001e46,Dec 23 2005, 12:35 PM
Second, this may be a major generalization, but women tend to be able to make snap relationship judgements and stick by them much better than men. Once a woman has decided that it's over, it's best to just walk away with your pride and leave the relationship. Men tend to be more shallow and wishy-washy and it doesn't take much (lingerie seduction always works on me) to swing them back into a relationship (assuming they haven't already met someone else, but now I'm going off on a tangent).
women don't generally make snap judgements about relationships. They just seem like snap judgements to men 
If a girl breaks up with you odds are good she's been thinking about it for a while, odds are good that she's been sending you signals that things aren't quite right(which most men miss) for some time.
The reason that girls stick to the decisions better than men is because they don't make as many snap decisions, they think about the relationship and when they decide it's not best for them they end it. Guys are only caught by surprise when they're not paying attention which unfortunately is most of the time
Men fall back into the trap of getting back involved for one reason....SEX....if a girl offers herself up to him...odds are good that he'll crumble and take her back for a while.
12-23-2005, 11:49 AM
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Originally Posted by problem_child,Dec 23 2005, 12:34 PM
btw, korean fob girls dont believe in friends of opposite sex (unless u two have some kinda history which you dont)
Today's lesson: Dont Date Korean Chicks... They Are Trouble
Today's lesson: Dont Date Korean Chicks... They Are Trouble
.... whats wrOng with us?? 
