LeTsEaTatDeNnYs

Weve been going out for about 2 months... 68 days to be exact....
Up to yesterday, everything was fine... We went shopping on Monday laughs and all... Tuesday and Wednesday, i got strange vibes from her... i thought something was up but didnt think itd be so serious...

last night i went to her apt after work and she handed me a lettter....


this is what she wrote....

"Hello Denny. I'm Helen.
I want to say something, so I'm writing a letter.
It's hard to say.
Recently, I have thought many confused thing.
You know, my parents don't want me to stay here longer than two months. Also, i want to see my parents.
Before i thought i wanted to stay here 6 months if i can.
But i changed my thinking.
I miss them a lot... I want to go back to Korea after finishing my langauge school.
So i was confused....
And i thought about our relationship.
As your father saying, it's better to break up as soon as we can.
If we keep our relationship for a long time, we would have diffucult time to forget each other.
I'm sorry that I talk about this.
I can't see you anymore.
I'm not tired of you, it's best choice that i can.
I know, you're too good for me.
You took care of me a lot.
Your family treated me as one of your family.
Thanks...
I'm so sorry. I would like that you follow my opinion.
I hope you will be happy.

p.s. ... If you want to bring your stuff, just leave

a message. I will pack those stuff."

I'd already known since we started going out thatd shed be going back to Korea at some point whether it be February or August....

We said wed go out until then and keep in touch as long as possible after that until we get married or breakup...

Im assuming though that shed talked to her mom over the phone and they didnt want her staying here any longer than February....

If shes worried that shell be too hurt when she needs to leave then i still want to be her friend...

if shes not comfortable seeing me as friends, could we just talk on the phone???

I still want to be with her for as long as possible....

This is my first relationship so be nice....

problem_child

i had a lot to say until u read this...

SaV

Here is some advice, Denny:

First and foremost, she called it off. Thus, you have zero obligation to ease her pain of ending the relationship. Now that is out of the way...

Since the relationship only lasted for 2 months, you definitely do not know her completely. I'm sure you believe that you do, but you really don't. So I highly suggest you cut your losses and forget about contacting her. Continued communication will undoubtedly hurt you in both the short and long term.

You really should take care of yourself. From what was stated it appears that the relationship is pretty much over. So however much you would like to prolong the relationship, the end is pretty much inevitable.

Learn from what you can and move on.

problem_child

first of all, let her know you wanna be her friend and make sure she knows you respect her decision. Korean girls(FOB) are sensitive and emotional... many have low self-esteem which leads them to follow other people's decision such as their parents. Just be there for her and let her know you still wanna be her friend even if you are not together.

The next thing is that you need to find out what you wanna do. you mentioned marriage but is that something you really consider? after dating for 2 months? your first relationship?

everything depends on your(both of you) age, background, financial status, education, family, friends, etc etc...
In my opinion, marriage can be a good solution to your problem. BUT you should defnitely know if she is someone u wanna commit to before saying you wanna marry her.

*A note to remember* Korean girls do want a guy who takes the control and lead.

rudeS2k

Denny,its hard to let go of my 1st relationship, too..but sometimes..things change that is out of your control..i, too ..think its time to move on..sorry to say,but it'll be depressing for the next few weeks

SaV

Wanna kick it and pimp on girls???

<~~man-slut

problem_child

man

Ragingazn

FYI FOB= Fresh off the boat... the ones that have a heavy accent and cover their mouths when they laugh

most fobs are emotional and sensitive....

those were just agreement statments for PC. thats all.. and good luck man K-girls are heart-wrenchers

My question is, when she handed you the letter did you read it right there? what the hell did you do afterwards??

ASMspec

Keep you head high bro.

In your case you have only been dating for 60 days, give or take. To me I would do as SAV said and just cut it off now. Its very early in your relationship and there are more fishes out there to catch.
Some people are in relationships 1 year or 11 years and still end up breaking up.

I feel your pain but life does go on and there is someone out there for you.

problem_child

BTW, being just friends wouldnt do any good for either of you.


if u still wanna be friends with her, use the MSN messanger or better yet, use NATE-ON. you also gotta have your own cyworld homepage as well