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Originally posted by Blackie
RedRover, as the topic starter we still haven't heard your views on this.
RedRover, as the topic starter we still haven't heard your views on this.
More importantly, all the replies have been thoughtful and of good standard. Well done guys
As to my own personal views, pehaps because of my age, I tend to take a more liberal and relaxed view of it all. Having lived through the sixties & seventies I think the pendulum has now swung too far in the other direction and that as a society we are now too uptight and politically correct.
Of the views expressed here I would tend to align myself closer to Blackie & Cashout rather than Naishou & Austblue. Whilst I don't condone the teacher's actions I don't think she deserves a jail sentence. Loss of her job & reputation are probably punishment enough.
As to the boy, I think the greatest psychological harm comes from the gross over-reaction by the parents and school authorities. The same applies if it was a young girl and a male teacher. If the child were to receive a sympathetic, understanding & supportive reaction from the parents they would recover & learn from the experience in a more positive way.
I'm not trying to encourage all young kids to go out and bonk their teacher and I do agree that a male teacher who bonks under-age girls deserves a jail sentence. What I'm trying to say (somehow) is that as a society we should educate parents, the media & educational authorities not to have an hysterical over-reaction and further damage the child when such events do happen.
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Originally posted by AusS2000
Do you honestly think you would be psychologically scared by scoring with a 30-something chick when you were 14?
I'm pretty sure I would have recovered by now.
Do you honestly think you would be psychologically scared by scoring with a 30-something chick when you were 14?
I'm pretty sure I would have recovered by now.
What I'm suggesting you do is come up with a reason why it might be more harmful to a girl in this position than a boy. Apart from the fact that society might react more strongly in the former case (presumeably because they have the same views as you), I can't think of one. What goes for one goes for the other. Is anyone here suggesting that the law should ban relationships between men and young girls but not between women and young boys? I don't think you'd get too many feminists supporting that case.
Even if you argue that the only problem is the parents' reaction, you can't ignore that factor. Kids have to live with their parents and rely on them. If the excepted standards of a society lead parents to react as they do, and that reaction is harmful, then that is as legitimate a reason as any to forbid the action that causes it. It's not helpful to a kid to say "don't worry that your family relationships are ruined forever - it's just because they overreacted".
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Originally posted by RedRover
Of the views expressed here I would tend to align myself closer to Blackie & Cashout rather than Naishou & Austblue. Whilst I don't condone the teacher's actions I don't think she deserves a jail sentence. Loss of her job & reputation are probably punishment enough.
Of the views expressed here I would tend to align myself closer to Blackie & Cashout rather than Naishou & Austblue. Whilst I don't condone the teacher's actions I don't think she deserves a jail sentence. Loss of her job & reputation are probably punishment enough.
I think a lot of the views expressed here would be considered unacceptable by just about everyone if we were talking about a male teacher and a female student, and that the implied double standard is not based on evidence but stereotypes and machismo. Some people seem to be openly saying that what applies to girls should not apply to boys, and that's about as far from liberal as you can get.
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We really need somebody with some knowledge of psychology to chip in here. My sister has a degree in psychology. Maybe I can ask her if there are differences between how girls and boys might respond to this situation.
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The argument with young girls is almost always that the act was forced upon them. ie rape. With boys you don't really have that (unless it is homosexual). Hence when a female minor has sex with an adult, it is considered rape because the minor cannot make a "valid judgement". That's me reading into the view that society and the legal system take. Of course once you get the media involved... you never find out the facts...
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That's as big a stereotype as you'll find anywhere
I can tell you that the girl I know wasn't raped. She was highly willing, just like a lot of boys would be. It still f**ked up her life. I don't see why a boy would be any more capable of making a judgement than she was.
I can tell you that the girl I know wasn't raped. She was highly willing, just like a lot of boys would be. It still f**ked up her life. I don't see why a boy would be any more capable of making a judgement than she was.
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It still f**ked up her life.
It still f**ked up her life.
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She probably wouldn't have followed a 14 year old to London.
Is this a serious question? 14 year olds who go out with 14 year olds generally don't believe that they are a having a mature adult relationship, or regard that relationship as the overriding factor in their lives. I don't think any 14 year old who's sleeping with someone over 20 years older thinks of it as just another boyfriend/girlfriend. They think of themselves as being special, chosen, mature beyond their years.
And you realise, of course, that sex between 14 year olds is also illegal?
Is this a serious question? 14 year olds who go out with 14 year olds generally don't believe that they are a having a mature adult relationship, or regard that relationship as the overriding factor in their lives. I don't think any 14 year old who's sleeping with someone over 20 years older thinks of it as just another boyfriend/girlfriend. They think of themselves as being special, chosen, mature beyond their years.
And you realise, of course, that sex between 14 year olds is also illegal?
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What I'm suggesting you do is come up with a reason why it might be more harmful to a girl in this position than a boy.
What I'm suggesting you do is come up with a reason why it might be more harmful to a girl in this position than a boy.
If you really want to open a can of worms ask the question this way: If you believe it's ok for a teacher to have a physical relationship with a fourteen year old boy does that include male teachers?
Personally I believe that the major impact of any affair like this is the fallout. Our society can be extremely puritanical at times.